Be Compassionate

Strawberry Singh must be telepathic into the universe. She came up with the perfect meme this week hop over here to see the challenge: Strawberry Singh Mean Comments Meme. This leads me to why I'm blogging what I'm blogging tonight instead of what I was going too... I am simply just MAD for a blogger that had to deal with a mean comment recently.

I will say that sometimes in some situations our mouths engage before our brains. I have been victim of this. I had a sponsor let me go because my "style" didn't fit their look anymore. I was devastated. But instead of walking away from the computer to let it sink in. Before I could say "okay, I understand, but I love your product, what can I do for you to make my blog fit your style and reapply at a later time. I instead EXPLODED into a fitful temper tantrum that to this day I'm still very ashamed of. Sadly, it ruined a friendship and the reaction of the creator was of course not favorable. So please before you say something cruel to someone else, put yourself in their shoes, walk away from your computer. Type it out in word or something then re read it later before reacting.

1. Have you ever been subjected to mean comments online by strangers? If not, then skip to question #5. – YES! I have had had people tell me I'm a bitch, stand offish. 
2. How did you respond to them? – The only time I regret my reaction is how I exploded to a blog manager when she released me from blogging for a creator that I loved and adored. It was a hard lesson learned.
3. How did they make you feel? – Honestly, because of how I felt for this creator I was so hurt, just beyond hurt. I reacted badly because of that pain. I honestly to this day don't know why my blog wasn't "good enough" but that's exactly how it felt. I have since grown from that experience. I think I miss the friendship more then the product because when you have sponsors you sometimes become very very close to them. I just like my sponsors and try to be friends with them too.
4. Can you share some of the mean comments you’ve received and your thoughts on them? – I'm used to being bullied, I was bullied from the time I was 8 years old into adult hood. I can't pick one statement that stands out to me, but I will say my thoughts are there's never any reason to bully another. NEVER. EVER.

When I was out taking pictures for this blog post we were wandering around the Image Essentials Sim because lets face Kay is awesome and her sim has so many great places to take pictures. So this spot just rang out to my daughter Emma (Cute little one on the far right, and her best friend Ally with the blue bow) so we sat down, I pulled out a pillow from Say Cheese and they look like little zombies watching tv. Wondering why I would add a picture like this? Well, it's because when my sons were about this age my ex husband accused me of neglecting them. From the time I was 27 when I divorced for many years I heard horrible things from my ex husband, and his family. It just made me stronger, but for a long time it controlled my life, and made me feel less then a parent. It wasn't until my children began to grow up, and think for themselves that I learned that I was a good parent, not perfect but a good parent.

5. Have you ever ridiculed or negatively commented on someone else’s work, actions or personality with the intention to hurt them? – I never intentionally hurt someone. Have I? Oh I am sure I have. With the intent to hurt them? Of course not. There are some blogs I simply don't like to read. I have to glance at them because I am and have been a blogger manager for another creator so it's kind of my job to read them. I also follow some blogs that aren't *my* style, but I would never publicly tell them they're crap. I might voice it out loud to my husband "I don't really like this picture" but it's *NEVER* about the person themselves or what they've written. Well I do complain often about people not linking linking linking. That makes me mad, that gets me riled. If you're going to pose, tell me who it is. They're denying themselves some followings and more importantly sales for a creator who may be unknown to many people. That's5 how I look at my blog it's a sales pitch for my sponsors, for people I choose to blog whether they're my sponsor or not. I keep my sponsor list low for a reason. There are many fabulous creators I would LOVE LOVE LOVE a chance to blog for but I write a LOT LOT LOT when I blog and so I just feel if I took on more I'd be more overwhelmed then I already am.

~Namrah's Look~Body:
Glam Affair (Creator aida Ewing) - Amberly - America
Slink: (Creator Siddean Munro) Hands (Casual) Feet (High)
Mesh Body: (Creator: Onyx LeShelle) Maitreya Mesh Body Lara V2Skin: Glam Affair-Amberly America

Eyes/Make-Up:
IKON (Creator Ikon Innovia) Hope Eyes- Denim
*MC* Makeup - Smeared Eye (bought on MP)

Outfit: SLUMBER Lolas Donald Duck

Jewlery/Accessories:
.:L&B:. (Creators Lapointe & BastChild Designs) "True" necklace, and earrings

Hair:.ploom ~Recycle


Dreaming Second Life Flickr Page

~Have You Ever? Blog Meme

I think I've done one or two of Strawberry Singh's Blog Meme's in the past, and I really enjoy them. Sometimes having a topic can be helpful to get the juices flowing. I really enjoyed this one though simple, it also makes you stop and think about why we're here.



I came to Second Life because of someone I was dating in real life. It was a place for us to be together when my school schedule was getting in the way. Once we broke up though, it was a foundation for more for me.

Have you ever owned a sim in Second Life? – Yes! So I spend lindens. I don't have much of a real life so I spend it in SL. I've had small sims, and bigger sims. I've never owned a full prim though that's the goal someday. I really don't like neighbors and detest sandboxes. Plus on my own sim I have control of how the terrin looks and I don't have to have people judging me on my sex life, lol (Again I hate neighbors!)
Have you ever created content in Second Life? – I think a tree? I create boxes, and platforms..

Oh I made one of my sponsors a cow for her birthday. It is very high prim (like 15) and just goofy but if it made her smile it was worth it.

Have you ever driven a vehicle in Second Life? – Yes, horribly.
Have you ever gone sky diving in Second Life? – Yes. Something I don't really enjoy because I don't like heights, even in SL
Have you ever played a sport in Second Life? – erm.. does sex count? No, I haven't. I don't even think I've been to a sporting event.
Have you ever gone clubbing in Second Life? – Yes.
Have you ever fangirled/fanboyed someone in Second Life? – I'm not quite sure what this means but if this means writing a creator and gushing over how much I like their stuff.. yeah I'm guilty. (or photographer or... yeah.. guilty, lol)
Have you ever taken a picture of your avatar in water in Second Life?– erm... yes.. I almost forgot but yes.. I don't like water pictures though because I want the reflection and I haven't figured out how to do that yet.
Have you ever taken a picture of a sunset in Second Life? – Yes several and some even for this blog post.
Have you ever taken a nude picture of your avatar in Second Life? – Yes I'm guilty of doing this. I love erotic art, and I think sometimes second life avatars in sexy postions/looks are beautiful.
Have you ever dated in Second Life? – Yes!
Have you ever had or attended a wedding in Second Life? I've attended and been married twice in second life. TO THE SAME GUY even. On our main account avatars we were going to have a wedding but it was expensive, and all of our friends were being so anal about the date that we just "eloped" and did it ourselves on some random sim. Was pretty. Second time we did it on our current avatars and went through an amazing group of people Everlasting Moments and it was well worth every linden we spent. Rea and Caiti were wonderful and friendships blossomed out of it. So yeah it was worth it. All of it.
Have you ever drank, smoked or taken drugs in Second Life? – Erm.. Drank yes.. smoked? Not on purpose maybe cleaning out inventory from hunts etc.. I dont' smoke in r/l sure the heck not going to do it online, lol as for drugs.. just in roleplay scenearios but I don't have props or anything for it.
Have you ever engaged in sexual activity in Second Life? – I admit.. I am guilty of this. I love the mental stimulation of SL sex. I enjoy the menus, and the roleplay that comes with it. Sue me. :) I don't believe people when they say they've never had Second Life sex. I'm sorry I think we've all tried it at least once and we shouldn't be ashamed of that.
Have you ever been to Bukkake Bliss in Second Life? – LMAO! Yes.. Used to go quite abit back when I first came to SL. Recently went with a bunch of gals. Was rather boring to me to just stand around. No one was really talking.

You can find more of Strawberry Singh's Meme's here: Archives for Berry’s Blog Challenges

Here's a back view of this amazing new release by .ploom

Me being silly. :)

Namrah's Look
Body:

Glam Affair (Creator aida Ewing) - Amberly - America
Slink: (Creator Siddean Munro) Hands (Casual) Feet (High)
Mesh Body: (Creator: Onyx LeShelle) Maitreya Mesh Body Lara V2Skin: Glam Affair-Amberly America

Eyes/Make-Up:
IKON (Creator Ikon Innovia) Eternal Eyes Sapphire
- DAMNED (Creator DAMNEDshop) - My perfect eyelashes
La Boheme Lipstick: Glossy Wine

Jewlery:
.:L&B:. (Creators Lapointe & BastChild Designs) "Celtic Femme" Wedding Ring - Platinum v2

Hair:.ploom. Yuki- Ploomage available @ Creepy Kawaii Fair