Monday, March 30, 2015

Be Compassionate

Strawberry Singh must be telepathic into the universe. She came up with the perfect meme this week hop over here to see the challenge: Strawberry Singh Mean Comments Meme. This leads me to why I'm blogging what I'm blogging tonight instead of what I was going too... I am simply just MAD for a blogger that had to deal with a mean comment recently.

I will say that sometimes in some situations our mouths engage before our brains. I have been victim of this. I had a sponsor let me go because my "style" didn't fit their look anymore. I was devastated. But instead of walking away from the computer to let it sink in. Before I could say "okay, I understand, but I love your product, what can I do for you to make my blog fit your style and reapply at a later time. I instead EXPLODED into a fitful temper tantrum that to this day I'm still very ashamed of. Sadly, it ruined a friendship and the reaction of the creator was of course not favorable. So please before you say something cruel to someone else, put yourself in their shoes, walk away from your computer. Type it out in word or something then re read it later before reacting.
  1. Have you ever been subjected to mean comments online by strangers? If not, then skip to question #5. – YES! I have had had people tell me I'm a bitch, stand offish. 
  2. How did you respond to them? – The only time I regret my reaction is how I exploded to a blog manager when she released me from blogging for a creator that I loved and adored. It was a hard lesson learned.
  3. How did they make you feel? – Honestly, because of how I felt for this creator I was so hurt, just beyond hurt. I reacted badly because of that pain. I honestly to this day don't know why my blog wasn't "good enough" but that's exactly how it felt. I have since grown from that experience. I think I miss the friendship more then the product because when you have sponsors you sometimes become very very close to them. I just like my sponsors and try to be friends with them too.
  4. Can you share some of the mean comments you’ve received and your thoughts on them? – I'm used to being bullied, I was bullied from the time I was 8 years old into adult hood. I can't pick one statement that stands out to me, but I will say my thoughts are there's never any reason to bully another. NEVER. EVER.

When I was out taking pictures for this blog post we were wandering around the Image Essentials Sim because lets face Kay is awesome and her sim has so many great places to take pictures. So this spot just rang out to my daughter Emma (Cute little one on the far right, and her best friend Ally with the blue bow) so we sat down, I pulled out a pillow from Say Cheese and they look like little zombies watching tv. Wondering why I would add a picture like this? Well, it's because when my sons were about this age my ex husband accused me of neglecting them. From the time I was 27 when I divorced for many years I heard horrible things from my ex husband, and his family. It just made me stronger, but for a long time it controlled my life, and made me feel less then a parent. It wasn't until my children began to grow up, and think for themselves that I learned that I was a good parent, not perfect but a good parent.

5. Have you ever ridiculed or negatively commented on someone else’s work, actions or personality with the intention to hurt them? – I never intentionally hurt someone. Have I? Oh I am sure I have. With the intent to hurt them? Of course not. There are some blogs I simply don't like to read. I have to glance at them because I am and have been a blogger manager for another creator so it's kind of my job to read them. I also follow some blogs that aren't *my* style, but I would never publicly tell them they're crap. I might voice it out loud to my husband "I don't really like this picture" but it's *NEVER* about the person themselves or what they've written. Well I do complain often about people not linking linking linking. That makes me mad, that gets me riled. If you're going to pose, tell me who it is. They're denying themselves some followings and more importantly sales for a creator who may be unknown to many people. That's5 how I look at my blog it's a sales pitch for my sponsors, for people I choose to blog whether they're my sponsor or not. I keep my sponsor list low for a reason. There are many fabulous creators I would LOVE LOVE LOVE a chance to blog for but I write a LOT LOT LOT when I blog and so I just feel if I took on more I'd be more overwhelmed then I already am.

~Namrah's Look~Body:
Glam Affair (Creator aida Ewing) - Amberly - America
Slink: (Creator Siddean Munro) Hands (Casual) Feet (High)
Mesh Body: (Creator: Onyx LeShelle) Maitreya Mesh Body Lara V2Skin: Glam Affair-Amberly America

IKON (Creator Ikon Innovia) Hope Eyes- Denim
*MC* Makeup - Smeared Eye (bought on MP)

Outfit: SLUMBER Lolas Donald Duck

.:L&B:. (Creators Lapointe & BastChild Designs) "True" necklace, and earrings

Hair:.ploom ~Recycle

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